Write on your terms

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Talk or write? Some people do well speaking. Others crash and burn. I’m intrigued. I know when I see peoples eyes glaze over I’ve lost them.

So it begs the question. Why are we able to listen to a guest speaker ramble on until the cows come home but not a mate banging on about something? Here’s a little snapshot from Forbes magazine.

  1. People hear less than 60-80% of what we say. Why? Cause they’re thinking of what they are going to say back.
  2. As speakers we choose what we say partially on how easy it is for us to articulate it.
  3. We don’t always take into account the listener.

Not taking into account the listener. I’ll jump in here. Why is a listener not listening? It’s a bloody minefield as to why. That’s why writing is awesome.

Listeners

  1. Switch off when people talk too much. Will the speaker ever come up for breath?
  2. Hate when they can’t get a word in edgeways
  3. Can have a habit of interrupting
  4. Asked you a question but they’re not interested in your answer.
  5. Don’t understand when you talk too fast.
  6. Wish you would get to the point.
  7. Daydream.
  8. Have heard your story a thousand times.
  9. Bored with what your banging on about.
  10. Respect you are having a vent.
  11. Don’t respect you.
  12. Have already jumped to conclusions.
  13. Have no idea what you are talking about.
  14. Tired.

Wow I am exhausted. Oh forget the article. I’ll become a hermit. Let’s just write!

Write!

  • Scan read my words. I don’t care.
  • Don’t like the topic. Get another book. There’s no love lost here.
  • No need to jump to conclusions. Just read the last page.
  • Don’t understand? Read and reread. That’s how you survive uni.
  • Tired? It’s called a bookmark.

When conversing, such a small amount of info is absorbed by the listener. What’s the point? Why put yourself through the angst of scrambling to articulate your words to an unforgiving audience. Write! It’s on your terms.

Yeah I kind of lost interest in the article. Sorry about that. It’s a good read though.

Can’t believe I worked as a speaker and facilitator and am only now reflecting on it. You definitely are at the mercy of the listener and 360 degree feedback in this realm. Pressure. Why put yourself through all that. Write.

We talk too much: Lessons from neuroscience you can apply to business conversations – Andrea Louma – Forbes Magazine

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Phrase/Saying

  • Eyes glaze over – bored with what someone is saying
  • Until the cows come home – a long time
  • Banging on about something – talking
  • Fishing around for answers – an indirect way to find an answer
  • It’s a bloody minefield – (1940’s) thwart with unseen dangers
  • Will you ever come up for breath – Will you ever stop talking
  • Can’t get a word in edgeways – (1800’s, UK) – No airtime to talk cause others won’t stop talking.(originated with people trying to get through a crowd)
  • Jumping to conclusions – Conclude not based on fact.
  • Too hard basket – (U.K 1700’s) Too hard (originated from when bakers cooked bread. Too hard? It went in the too hard basket)

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